FREE relationship resources- Date night ideas & communication question – Sophie Guidolin

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FREE relationship resources- Date night ideas & communication questions

Please know, I do not by any means classify myself as a relationship expert or want this to be taken as advice. Here you will find some free resources for communication questions, date night ideas and learning how to best show your partner your appreciation for them- in a way that they most relate to and feel loved. 

As a certified NLP practitioner I am qualified to provide you with advice on living your best life and breaking free of the barriers holding you back, however as my personal passion is with health and fitness, this is not a service I offer- hence this blog. 

What is included in the below:

  • Communication Question Starters 
  • Love Languages
  • Date Night Ideas
  • Date Night Ideas when you can’t leave the house
  • Meaningful Gift Ideas

 Communication Questions

With communication being such a big cause of issues in relationships, set aside time to ask the hard questions.

  • What are we doing?
  • Are you happy?
  • Where do you want to be in 5 years?
  • Are you sexually satisfied?
  • What are your fantasies?
  • Do you enjoy spending time with my friends?
  • What is your favourite thing we do together?
  • What are some things about other couples that annoy you?
  • What did you think when you first met me?
  • What do you remember most about the night/day we first met?
  • What about our relationship makes you really happy?
  • How long did you think our relationship would last when we first started dating?
  • If you had one word to describe our relationship what would it be?
  • If you had one word to describe our love what would it be?
  • What’s your biggest fear for this relationship?
  • Do you believe there’s one person you’re ‘meant’ to be with?
  • Do you believe in fate? destiny?
  • What’s one difference between us that you absolutely love?
  • What’s one similarity between us that you absolutely love?
  • What about me made you fall in love?
  • Is love something that scares you?
  • What about love scares you?
  • What’s your favorite memory of us?
  • What’s one thing you want to do together that we’ve never done before?
  • If something happened where I had to move very far away, would you attempt long-distance? Or go our separate ways?
  • Where is your favorite place to be with me?
  • What’s one thing you’re scared to ask me, but really want to know the answer to?
  • What’s one thing you feel our relationship is lacking? 
  • How do you know when you love someone?
  • How did you know you loved me?
  • Is romantic love the most important love of all?
  • Do you think once you love someone, you will ALWAYS love them? Or do you think love can fade away with time?
  • What’s the first thing you notice about someone when you fall for them?
  • What’s one thing about love that scares you?
  • Do you believe in love at first sight?
  • Was it love at first sight with me?
  • Which do you agree with? Love should always feel comfortable, or love should always feel new and exciting?
  • What do you think makes people fall out of love?
  • What makes you fall out of love?
  • Do you believe people can change if they love someone?
  • Do you think knowing whether or not it’s love depends on how long you’ve known the person?
  • How long do you think it takes before you know you love someone?
  • Would you still be able to love someone after they’ve been unfaithful?
  • What constitutes cheating/unfaithfulness for you?
  • What’s worse an emotional affair or a physical one?
  • If you love someone, is unfaithfulness/cheating something that can be forgiven?
  • When it comes to cheating, forgive and forget, forgive but don’t forget, or don’t forgive at all?
  • Do you believe love changes you?
  • Family matters: what are the names of my parents, grandparents and brothers or sisters?
  • Am I a dog person or a cat person?
  • What is my favorite color?
  • Who is my best friend?
  • Do I have any allergies?
  • Which is my favorite food?
  • Do I have any superstition or belief?
  • Which is my favorite movie?
  • What’s your favorite outdoor activity?
  • What’s your favorite book?
  • What’s your favorite time of day and why?
  • Who is your favorite superhero?
  • What is your favorite color?
  • What is your favorite season?
  • What is your favorite restaurant?
  • What is your favorite sport to watch? To play?
  • What is your favorite thing to write or draw with?
  • What do I normally do in my free time?
  • Which is my zodiac sign?
  • What is my shoe size?
  • Which day did we meet for the first time?
  • If you had one day left to live, what would you do?
  • Where would you most like to go on vacation?
  • What would you do if you won $10,000?
  • What do you like best about me?
  • What one thing would you like to change about me?
  • Who was the first person you kissed?
  • How would you feel if I made more money than you?
  • Would you be willing to stay home with the kids while I work?
  • What is the craziest dream you’ve ever had?
  • If you could trade lives with someone, who would it be?
  • Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you want as a dinner guest?
  • Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  • Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?
  • What would constitute a perfect day for you?
  • When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
  • If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?
  • Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
  • Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
  • For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
  • If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
  • Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
  • If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?
  • If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
  • Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
  • What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
  • What do you value most in a friendship?
  • What is your most treasured memory?
  • What is your most terrible memory?
  • If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are living now? Why?
  • What does friendship mean to you?
  • What drains your energy?
  • How do you replenish your energy?
  • If you inherited $100,000 right now, how would you spend it?
  • If you had time to do volunteer work, what would you do? (Should you make time?)
  • What’s the hardest part of your job for you?
  • What’s the best part?
  • Who was your best friend as a kid? In High School? (Describe why)
  • What’s your favorite physical activity?
  • What non-profit do you believe in supporting? (Do we do that enough?)
  • What’s your favorite cultural activity?
  • What about religion has changed for you as you’ve aged?
  • What relative was important to you growing up & why?
  • What messages or myths about sex did you believe growing up? (from parents, peers or anyone)
  • What’s something you’ve never done that you’d like to try?
  • What’s a favorite lyric, song or band? How does music matter to you?
  • What’s something that scares you that you would never ever try?
  • What artistic endeavors have you tried & decided you were bad at?
  • What dreams have you given up on as unrealistic?
  • What book do you remember as being important to you?
  • What piece of art did you see that you’ve never forgotten?
  • What’s hard about being a parent? or What’s hard about not being a parent?
  • What’s one of the worse things that could happen to you?
  • What’s a favorite memory that you have about us?
  • Were your parents ever any good at having an us?
  • What’s required the most courage of you in your life so far?
  • What’s good about how we are living in our life right now?
  • If you had more courage what would you do differently in your life now?
  • What do you like about our home? & what do you dislike?
  • If you had 1 year left to live, what would you do for you? for us? for the family?
  • For the two of us as a couple, what has been the hardest thing for you to face or learn?
  • How are you a different person from loving me?
  • What has made you angry about us as a couple?
  • What do you love about living in Pittsburgh? (or your own city)
  • Is there anything hard for you about living here or in our neighborhood?
  • If you could live anywhere, where would it be & why?
  • If you have kids give a detailed snapshot of each one from your point of view & what worries you.
  • Discuss what you love about your favorite t.v. show.
  • Are you happy with how we spend $$? What would you change?
  • From your point of view how could sex be improved?
  • Of all your friends & relatives whose life do you envy & why? (There might be a clue as to what you want)
  • Are you living the life you would want to live if you knew you’d be killed next week?
  • Where have you never been that you would like to visit?
  • When you look back on your life what is something you wish you’d done differently?
  • What are your 3 strengths as a parent?
  • What are your 2 weaknesses as a parent?
  • Are we spending enough time together, just us as a couple?
  • What are some new things you’d like to experiment with doing together?
  • Do we have enough friends with other couples or are there people we should reach out to?
  • How do you have fun? Do we have fun as a couple?
  • Do you think we are too materialistic?
  • What are 3 of your top personal values? Do we keep them in mind enough?
  • What is your idea of special time together?
  • Are there any ways you hold yourself back from being truly honest with me?
  • Is there anything I do that interrupts your ability to be completely honest with me?
  • What’s the hardest part of living with me? (if you think you know, say it & find out if you’re right.)
  • What pipe dreams do you wish could come true? (completely unrealistic)
  • Do you want to be cremated or buried? Do you want a green burial? End of Life concerns addressed?
  • How do you want to maintain vitality after the kids are grown & gone?
  • How do you want to age differently from how your parents do/did it?
  • What current events are really troubling to you?
  • Will/Was your mothers’ death or your fathers’ going to be harder on you? How can/Did I give support to you?
  • What’s something in our history together that was a big deal to you; that I may have overlooked?
  • What do you like about my parents? 76. What do you dislike? Do I stand up for you enough with them?
  • Are there any old grudges that interfere with trust between us?
  • What would you want your eulogy to say about you?
  • What’s missing in our life together? How could it be improved?
  • How is trust for you with me?

 

 

Love Languages
Everyone responds differently and values certain traits in s relationship higher than the other. A great task is ranking what you personally feel is your order, what YOU think is your partners order and swap/compare.
  • Acts of Service – doing something for your partner- like the washing or cleaning their car.
  • Receiving Gifts- a surprise bunch of flowers or a beautiful necklace.
  • Quality Time- presence over presents.
  • Physical Touch- a touch on the elbow, a hug, a kiss on the head.
  • Words of Affirmation- “you look beautiful today” 

Date Night Ideas

Never know what to do? Write down the dates that you think are up your alley on a paddle pop stick (or paper) and into a jar that you pull out on a regular basis.

  • Picnic.
  • Bushwalk.
  • Exploring somewhere new together.
  • Visit a winery or brewery.
  • Camping.
  • Road trip.
  • Outdoor cinema.
  • Pottery or art class.
  • Visit an art gallery.
  • Volunteer.
  • Kareoke.
  • Go to the beach.
  • Look on red balloon or air bnb for experiences locally.
  • Have a staycation.
  • Go for a hike.
  • Do the tourist things in your area.
  • Snorkel.
  • Hot air balloon.
  • Go for a country drive.
  • Have sex outdoors.
  • Go to the movies.
  • Drive in.
  • Pottery.
  • Ice skating.
  • Comedy show.
  • Go bowling.
  • Play putt putt.
  • Go dancing.
  • Kayak.
  • Stand up paddle.
  • Exercise together.
  • Sky dive.
  • Go for a bike ride.
  • Indoor trampoline.
  • Night markets.
  • Go to a concert.
  • Book a staycation.
  • Visit the zoo.
  • Make homemade sushi.
  • Cooking class.
  • Make a time capsule.

Date Night Ideas when you can’t leave the house: 

  • Play a Board/Card Game.
  • Eat Take-Out By Candlelight. 
  • Make Dinner or Dessert Together. 
  • Paint each other... naked.
  • Ask Each Other Questions.
  • Play Indoor Mini Golf
  • Do a Puzzle Together
  • Cook a special or 3 course fancy dinner together.
  • Eat takeout by candlelight.
  • Have a picnic on the floor.
  • Stargaze from the backyard.
  • Get dessert to go from your favorite restaurant.
  • Movie Night.
  • Picnic in the Backyard.
  • Break out the Wedding Video.
  • Go Through Memory Books/Boxes.
  • Beverages Outside.
  • Watch a sports game together 
  • Give each other massages. 
  • Have a “finger foods only” dinner and feed each other.
  • Invest in an ice cream maker or a bread maker 
  • Go on a picnic, inside the loungeroom or backyard!
  • Have a karaoke night! 
  • Have a Video Game night. 
  • Have a romantic candle light dinner. 
  • Have a Fondue Night. 
  • Host a Book Club . . . for two! 
  • Have a Homemade Pizza Night. 
  • Write (or video!!)  the story of how you met (and fell in love). 
  • Write A Year In Review. 
  • Pop some popcorn and watch YouTube videos all night. 
  • Have a living room campout. 
  • Have a movie marathon. 
  • Play Twister! See how tangled up you can get
  • Learn an instrument together
  • Do a scavenger hunt
  • Write a gratitude list together
  • Play lego
  • Bubble bath for two. Need I say more?

Meaningful Gift Ideas

  • A jar with 12 months of date night ideas
  • Organise an entire date night (baby sitter and all!)
  • Memories in a bottle
  • A hand written letter
  • A scratchable map with all the places you have visited
  • 52 reasons I love you deck of cards
  • A year in review book
  • A gratitude journal with everyone you appreciate about them
  • Book a family photoshoot
  • Make dinner
  • Love coupons
  • Custom photo book 
  • Write a novel on your love story 

My personal take homes: 

  • Make time for each other- or it won't happen. 
  • Practise gratitude everyday for each other- start by doing it at night- 3 things you are grateful for in the other person.
  • In order to be happy with anyone, you must first be happy with you.
  • Learn to communicate openly- use a facilitator if needed.
  • Have sex everyday, controversial I know :P
  • Remember you are both equal.
  • Don’t forget the small things are the big things.
  • Make room for alone time, too. Recharge. 

1 comment

  • Love it

    Monique

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